Is Caused by the Wrong Tone of Voice
A demanding wife continually nagged her husband to conform to her very high standards: "This is how you should act, this is how you should dress, this is what you should say, this is where you should be seen and this is how you should plan your career!" She insisted every aspect of his life be honed to perfection. Feeling thoroughly whipped, the man finally said, "Why don't you just write it all down: Then you won't have to tell me these things all the time." She gladly complied.
A short time later the wife died. Within the course of a year, the man met another woman and married. His new life seemed to be a perpetual honeymoon. He could hardly believe the great joy, and relief, he was experiencing with his new bride.
One day he came across the list of "do's and don'ts" his first wife had written. He read them and realized, to his amazement, he was following all of the instructions--even though his second wife had never mentioned them.
He thought about what might have happened and finally said to a friend, "my former wife began her statements, 'I hate it when...' but my new wife says, 'I just love it when...'"