Susan was deeply disappointed at the lack of emotional closeness she felt in her marriage. She began to lash out at her husband. He, of course, reacted with this own defensive anger. Over time their anger grew, threats were exchanged, and eventually divorce became part of their confrontations. Finally, Susan's husband moved out and she filed for divorce.
The divorce proceedings were bitter. They fought all the way through it. When they met to sign the final papers, they stopped to look at each other and Susan saw in his eyes the very feelings she was experiencing--a feeling of longing and yet of resignation. She thought, I don't want to divorce him, and I don't think he wants to divorce me.
She voiced her thoughts to her husband, and for a moment it appeared he might also soften and admit he, too, still cared. But then he said in a dull monotone, "We've come this far. I guess we should finish it." Susan left the courtroom realizing she had never really wanted a divorce. She just wanted her husband to listen.
Don't allow anger to lead you anywhere...but especially down a road you truly don't want to travel.
Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.